It's important to negotiate with your Dominant/Submissive the scene you both want play out. Negotiation is time well invested if done correctly. It is important to know each other's likes/dislikes and especially what is the "goal" of the scene (what is it exactly that you want to accomplish). With this type of understanding there is a lesser chance of disappointment after and both parties will be satisfied.

DON'T engage with tons of interests at first. In my professional opinion 3 is my lucky number. If you are a more experienced Dominant then you can incorporate 5-7 but only after you are well acquainted with one another.

1. How will the negotiation occur?
   1. Phone
   2. In person
   3. Email
2. What is the overall goal of the session?
3. Is nudity allowed and/or sexual contact?
4. What interests will be explored?
5. What are the hard limits?
6. What are the desired safe words
7. Are there any psychological or physical limitations?
8. Are marks allowed?
9. What type of aftercare will be needed?
10. Are there any triggers (feelings, words, activities) that need to made aware?

With this in mind happy playing!

If you are interested in seeing a Domme then look no further. I am an experienced practitioner of BDSM here in NYC and love to play with both men and women alike. But some are trying to change the business model. I say NO! If it's cheap you get what you pay for, a bad experience. For those men and even women who seek out these lesser experiences don't come crawling back to me after I told you so. I am always right for a reason.

On the other hand, if you do want a true experience with a well-seasoned Domme then I welcome you to contact me via my contact form and let's start a conversation. 

Many years ago I was introduced into BDSM via a cuckold relationship through a dating app that will remain unnamed. I initially communicated with the gentleman and he told me about a relationship that I dreamed of having but never thought existed. A relationship where I had sexual freedom and where he was devoted to me. That was the relationship at it's core.

We met eventually and got along very well. All he asked of me was to tell him of my sexual adventures. I could do so with words, pictures or with video. This turned him on. When we had encounters with others, he would stand and watch while I would be pleased by men and their girlfriends. Only when I said the word, would we enjoy each other's company.